Anonymous asked: I have a friend who was raped and never, ever talks about it. She talks about rape victims like they are a people separate from herself. I feel like she assumes her rape was different or her fault. It's just the impression I get. I kind of want to point out this blog and ask her if she'd like me to -- and only if she really wants to -- take her picture and submit it, but how could I go about bringing it up?

Hmm.. That’s really sensitive. Because I run this project, I’ve been in that situation before - where you’re not sure whether to openly ask or not. What I’ve chosen to do is just let the people who I am unsure about come to me.. Now, I know it’s different because it’s obviously more clear that I run the blog, but maybe you can simply post it on Facebook and then bring it up to her later and say that it might help her.

However, even if she does see it, she might not react. Sometimes it takes years for healing to even begin and it can’t be rushed. Try not to push her, but if you see her opening up, just be there for her. There is a fine line between helping and pushing and you don’t want to cross it, you know? Good luck - you seem like a good friend.

Anonymous asked: You are incredible. This blog is incredible. I'm sure it's difficult doing this project but I'm glad that you are.

Hey, thank you. Some days it’s not easy but it’s always worth it.. and I would never change anything about it. xo

Anonymous asked: my best friend has been sexually assaulted and whenever i hear about rape or it comes up in conversation i get really anxious. it hasnt even happened to me, am i overreacting and being dramatic? i just love my best friend so much and feel the same things. thanks

No, you’re not being dramatic. It’s called vicarious trauma and I’ve experienced it myself doing this blog. Just take a deep breath and maybe even shoot her a text saying that she means a lot to you :) 

Anonymous asked: Thank you so much for everything, Grace. When walked into your house today and wrote on that paper my mind went completely blank. When I read what I wrote, I was completely disgusted. I left your house and just drove for a while. I was shaking, and I was uncomfortable but that was the best I've felt in a long time. The memories will always be with me but I no longer feel as though those words-- THAT word have the same power over me that they did before today. Thank you.

I have been staring at this for ten minutes with tears in my eyes. I have nothing to say but thank you. Thank you so much.

Anonymous asked: I think that you should make an FAQ page, just covering some of the basic questions and what not?

That’s an awesome idea. I didn’t think of that.. thank you!

Signing out of Tumblr now, guys. My stomach is growling and Weeds is calling my name (I’m obsessed with that show right now). Have a great rest of your day!

Anonymous asked: I sent you an eMail a while ago asking if it would be alright to submit 4 times for each of my abusers.. I really want to submit, but I don't know if I have that right. It has to be something wrong with me for it to have happened so many times by so many different people

Hey.. My answer is still the same. You absolutely can because you absolutely have the right. It’s so screwed up that society encourages victim-blaming. It wasn’t your fault. Even if it happened one hundred times, it’s not the victim’s fault. 

Anonymous asked: Thank you. You're allowing those who thought they didn't have a voice, have a chance to speak out. You've definitely improved my awareness, I didn't think that so many people, at different ages experieced sexual abuse like this. A few weeks ago there was this guy at university who was a friend of a friend and I thought he was nice, until he started emailing me saying 'I want you to be my little whore, so I can use you whenever I want' eventually I had to block him and tell him to go away.

Hey, thank you so much. That guy sounds disgusting.. I’m glad you blocked him. Better to be safe than sorry.

Anonymous asked: Unconscious, 15, drunk from downing a whole bottle of wine, and covered in my period blood because I didn't know alcohol thinned blood.... Woke up to a huge fight because one of the guys I trusted tried to rape me. Then the guy who defended me took advantage of me for a long time. Forced by another guy to give oral sex, and be tied up. I'm stronger than that now. And I will always be there for others in my life who need help with ANYTHING. I am unbreakable =)

You most certainly are unbreakable. xoxo

Anonymous asked: I just have to tell you-what you are doing is beautiful. And you made my night beautiful by letting me know that I am not alone. God Bless you and all of these beautiful brave people.

<3

Anonymous asked: You're obviously going to get quite a lot of submitted pictures emailed to you, but out of interest do you plan on posting them all? And how often? Is there a queue? As always, in awe and gratitude for what you're doing.

Yup, I post every single image sent to me. I post anywhere between one and five photos a day, depending on how whether I feel I have been posting too much/posting not enough. I don’t use the queue because I am too much of a control-freak, so I just save them as drafts and post whenever I get the chance. :)

Anonymous asked: I'm not asking a question but I wanted to say that you are truly amazing. You are only 19 years old and are changing the world. I have no doubt that you will be famous someday. It takes a very strong and unique person to be able to do this. Your photography is incredible and you are going to make a difference in the world. People are not kind enough these days and I wish I was more like you. I am sure that many people feel that way. Congratulations on everything you have done and keep it up! (:

I’ve been procrastinating responding to this because it was just so kind and I just don’t know if I’m honorable enough to receive this message. I don’t *feel* that I’m amazing - I’m just doing something that I have to do, you know? I hope that makes sense. Thank you so much for your message though. It is quite an honor to be thought of so highly by someone I don’t know - unless I do know you personally, but still. Thank you again.

Anonymous asked: This isn't really a question...just letting you know that I support the project and really think that what you're doing here is awesome. I just wanted to let you know that I had to unfollow for my own mental health reasons, and not because I don't support the blog or anything. I'm actually planning on submitting, at some point.... Anyway. Didn't want you to think you lost a follower for lack of support, because that's totally not the case.

Don’t even worry about it. I completely understand. Take your time in submitting. xoxo

Anonymous asked: post my picture! i emailed it like a week ago

I will :) I just have a lot of submissions waiting. I don’t go in any certain order, although I should start being more organized about it. Email me if you’re worried I didn’t receive it.

Anonymous asked: in my dorm while i was making food, a guy i didnt know at came up behind me and started touching me. i told him to stop and he whispered in my ear "come on baby," and i told him "no, get your hands off and go away." he did, and everything was fine after that, but if anyone mentions any form of sexual aggression i get really upset and this comes to mind. ive never told anyone because i feel like i'm being dramatic, but it really bothered me. i guess i just need to know if im being dramatic or not

No, you’re not being dramatic at all. Thank you for trusting me with this.. I hope you are doing ok. Maybe think about seeing a therapist for it.